If you find yourself feeling a bit low after your big day, you’re not alone. After all the energy put into making the day special, and all the attention from family and friends fading away after the wedding, many couples can feel a sense of “Now what?” If you’re feeling this way, here are some tips for dealing with the feeling.

Express gratitude for your special day, and display memories of it in your home. Keeping your big day front and centre for a while will remind you of how special it was and that it will continue to be for you both. If you are still waiting for your official photos, ask friends and family to share their photos and videos of the day with you, and take some time to reminisce. All that hard work was not for nothing.

Focus on future planning with your spouse. Now that you are married, what other goals and plans do you have together? Having a sense of purpose and direction can help with focusing on what is new and exciting about being married. Remember that creating shared meaning is one of the factors in a successful relationship!

Stay connected to your friends and family who shared your special day. They were witnesses to your wedding and will play a vital role in keeping you faithful to the vows you made to each other. Whilst you are married now, you are not alone. Your marriage impacts everyone around you, and they will look to you as models of healthy, loving relationships.

Continue to date your spouse. Dating doesn’t end on your wedding day. Making time for just the two of you will remind you of how much you enjoy their company and why you married in the first place. Remember to use your partner’s love language on your dates!

Remeber that the first year is the hardest, especially if you did not live together before the wedding! Living with your spouse may seem romantic and exciting before the wedding, but can lead to all sorts of challenges for newly married couples. Remember your active listening and assertive communication, and use the speaker-listener technique if necessary.

Finally, seek help if your wedding blues last longer that you expect. Perhaps something else is going on and you need a professional to help you through. Sometimes we can get caught up in the excitement and joy of a wedding that we stop paying attention to other feelings that need dealing with. When the wedding is over, those feeling can surface again. Its important that you are able to get to the bottom of those feelings so that they don’t leak into your new marriage causing damage.